After the reality of my being pregnant kicked in, I started thinking about wills. What would happen if something should happen to me? Or Eddie? And we started talking about possible people who would become our child's legal guardian should that day ever come too soon. At first Eddie didn't want to talk about it, but I made him realise that it's something we need to seriously consider and not wait till it's too late.
We figured the perfect couple who we thought would be able to provide and care for our child as though he were their own. We were even going to talk to them about it. But life got in the way and the timing was never right.
Recent turn of events has made us change our minds. Trust is something really sacred to us, and we believe in keeping personal problems - especially if it was something between just us and another party - personal. We don't believe in having to discuss publicly or openly to anyone the problems that we faced and the choices that we've had to make.
Another thing that we despise is assumption. I have personally always hated people who would immediately assume they know best and take their own actions without confronting the people they're actually doing the assumption about. And what's worse is when they decide it's up to them to talk to other people and to air out these assumptions to even more people who are not involved.
I have always been told that I can be somewhat confrontational. Hell, my mother even once called me a 'cockfighter' (I took it as a compliment ;p). People have this natural instinct to talk about other people behind their backs and put on a show once confronted with this person. I choose to either confront (if it's worth it) or completely avoid if I think it's wasting my time. I don't believe in going through 35 different people and spreading my own version of what I don't really know about before the person stumbling upon what's being said about them behind their back finds out.
This time, I'm choosing to let go and avoid. Why? Because it's not their problem, I'm almost 8 months pregnant - not to mention for the first time in my life - and I'm happy. Since being married, my life is finally becoming stable and things are going well, and even faster than we planned. I'm grateful for all the things that we have and we work hard to make sure that we can keep up with these blessings for the future of our little family.
I'm glad things worked out the way it did, especially with the recent turn of events, and I'm glad we haven't spoken to them about being legal guardians to our unborn child should anything happen to us. Because the trust and understanding we thought we had with them was broken. Over something that could have been avoided had they come talk to us first.
Why am I choosing to do this here and not confront them? Like I said...this time, I'm choosing to avoid. Because some things are not worth wasting my time for. I would rather spend this time preparing the arrival of our new little guy and be happy with whatever has been given to us. Why pretend and put on a fake smile around people you can't trust anymore when we could be around the people who may say or do things to our faces that may hurt our feelings for a little while...but at least they're honest enough to do it without going around in circles first.
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